Jimmy Fallon hosts the most watched late-night show on television and in an industry where most games, stunts and celebrities are interchangeable, that says a lot about his likability. But Jimmy is not universally adored. A glance at the YouTube comments section shows that some people find him fake and specifically, they think that his laugh is fake. …students, he filled his mouth with artificial blood and he spun back around again he started spitting blood all over the classroom floor all over the students’ textbooks. His tongue was sticking out like a cobra. (Jimmy laughs) In this video, we’re going to explore the thing that might make Jimmy come across as fake to some people but oddly enough, that is also part of his biggest strength. Before we get into any of that though, let’s start with an obvious contributor to Jimmy’s charisma. He is a multi-talented jack-of-all-trades with skills in music, (Jimmy singing) impressions, (Jimmy doing an impression) …change, change. Bill Cosby? (Jimmy doing an impression) .and of course, comedy. (Jimmy singing) It might go without saying but people find talent attractive. What’s less obvious is that there’s something special about having many seemingly unrelated talents because when people find out that you have talents that don’t often go together, say, singing and stand-up comedy or football and ballroom dancing — it creates mystery and creates interest about what other amazing secrets you might be hiding but this effect only makes people more interested in you if you don’t run around telling everybody about what you’re good at right away. So, little tip number one — don’t be in a rush to reveal everything about you that’s interesting. For instance, I used to live in Brazil and Brazilians would often approach me speaking English because of the way that I looked. Sometimes I wouldn’t mention that I knew how to speak Portuguese and I would allow the conversation to go on in English for as long as they felt like talking. But when I did eventually break and speak Portuguese 20 minutes later, they were always more surprised and interested in me than if I had spoken Portuguese from the beginning. So if you have several cool talents, you might only want to reveal one early in an interaction. Just don’t be in a rush to tell people about all the ways in which are interesting — allow those things to come out organically overtime. After all, people who immediately tell you everything that’s great about them often just come across as insecure or maybe even arrogant but that’s just a side tip. The real question today is — why is it that some people love Jimmy while some think that he comes across as super fake? Well, it comes down to his positivity. Watch how easily he laughs at Anne Hathaway when she’s not even telling a joke. …and Kate Hudson went first and Jennifer Garner — two amazing ladies, funny, beautiful– Yeah, you don’t want to follow those guys. …and let me get to it — there’s a third one there that i did not know about. They’re telling stories about him (Jimmy giggles) it’s not so much a speech and I’m like– Anne is just setting the background of her story and Jimmy is already giggling. And then watch how quickly Jimmy can stop laughing once he started. …when I’ve seen the kids I was like, “Oh, man.” (Jimmy laughs) “It’s good. Look at this part,” and finally, my wife– The ease with which Jimmy laughs and then stops laughing can make it look like he’s controlling it — that he’s putting it on and that comes across as insincere. People despise insincerity because it almost always hides ulterior motives that are for their benefit. So we are constantly on the lookout for behaviors that look forced or controlled. Spontaneous laughter and then that quick turn off can, to some people, seem forced. I just don’t know how to thank you. It may take me a couple months (Jimmy laughs) to pay you for all you’ve done. You know Jimmy, (Jimmy laughs some more) here’s the deal– Now, I don’t actually think that Jimmy is faking it. I think that what some people are seeing is a holdover from his time on saturday night live when he was constantly having to hide laughter in order to move on with the skit. He was notorious for breaking character often the first person to have to fight back laughter before a joke was even told. Dave, Dave, Dave, David. Yeah? For your information guy– I can’t have children. So yes, my opinion is that almost all, if not all the time, Jimmy’s laugh is sincere even if it doesn’t look that way. He’s just the guy who laughs easily and he’s had to learn how to turn it off. And despite some of the negative comments, that is a very attractive trait as long, of course, as the laugh is genuine. Just watch the reactions of his guests to see. …being a person walking down the street and 10 is, for me, co-hosting the Oscars with James Franco. (Jimmy laughs) We walked by to go to the bathroom, we looked, and he’s watching Friday. He’s moving? Yeah, he’s watching– (Jimmy laughs) He was dying. (Jimmy laughs) I love that series so much, man. Jimmy, that’s why I’m here tonight. (Jimmy laughs) We shouldn’t be talking about religion. Here, I’ve got something for you. (Jimmy laughs) A pamphlet. It will just take five minutes of your time. (Jimmy laughs) You can see how it brightens people up when Jimmy bursts out laughing at their jokes and you’ve probably been there before where you’re not being especially funny but you happen to find someone who thinks that you’re hilarious. It feels great and you probably wanted that person to stick around just because of how funny they made you feel. Jimmy creates that same effect in all of his guests. Now, to be clear, I am not saying that Jimmy is forcing this and I’m not suggesting that you start fake laughing. I’m saying that if laughter doesn’t come easily to you, if you pride yourself on being a tough crowd, and only laughing at a select few brilliant jokes, you’d benefit socially from changing that but can you even do that of course is the question. Can you learn to find things funnier? Well, short answer — yes. Everything in life is a habit that’s kind of the philosophy of this channel and of course laughing is no exception. So here are some of the things that I have seen work and some that i have actually done myself. First off, you want to spend some time watching videos, doing things, whatever it is — I like videos, I’m a Youtube guy — watchin videos that make you laugh. And I’m not exaggerating when I say that I have specific videos that I will watch on Youtube repeatedly that make me laugh and put me in a good mood. Right now you’re looking at some of them and i will of course put links to those in the description but feel free to make your own humorous playlist. Secondly, recognize that laughing at someones joke is paying them a compliment. And if you’re uncomfortable with complimenting people, you will usually find it harder to laugh at their jokes. Part of you is holding back not wanting to give them that validation. If you want to counter, that you need to practice giving praise more and more effusively. Not surprisingly, this is something that Jimmy Fallon is very good at. Here he is talking about how Ryan Reynolds took a huge fan to the Deadpool premier. Just check out his enthusiasm. Here’s you with her and her brother. I love that you did that! I love that you did that. That’s awesome that you did that. Here, he’s freaking out about Lin-Manuel Miranda’s freestyling skills. (Lin-Manuel rapping) Oh my gosh! Oh my gosh! Michael Jordan with his tongue out! Oh my gosh, how do you do that? That sort of enthusiasm for other people’s achievements makes it easy to pay them this simple compliment of a laugh. And third, you’re gonna want to get in the habit of celebrating stupid little things. That could mean a short line at the grocery store or like traffic day or, in the case of Jimmy Fallon, a victory in some of the games that he plays on the show. Watch how eager he is to run over to his teammate and give them a huge hug just for winning a simple round of catchphrase. Who, what, where? (Teammate gets answer) Or watch how quickly Jimmy is to back up Terry Crews’s positivity and zest for life by joining in and dancing with him when he talks about how happy he is. By the way, Terry Crews is a great person to watch for this particular personality trait. …whole world, all the time, doing what I love which is amazing — you can feel the energy. I feel happy, I feel joy and that for you too. Anybody in the world is fine now. Yeah! Enthusiasm will make a huge difference. It makes life more vibrant, it’s going to make you laugh more, not to mention funnier, and more charismatic all around. I really might have to do more on this later if I’m not driving the point home enough here but hopefully you’re picking it up. Enthusiasm and energy are infectious and they translate to more laughter and happiness for everyone in the room but for now, let’s just move on to the fourth thing which is doing goofy things that you find personally amusing and as silly as it is, a goofy handshake reading that I have with an old friend almost always puts me in the mood of laughing whenever I’m with him. So set up little greetings, funny nicknames, anything that you find amusing or makes you chuckle with people in your life. And the more of these that you create, the easier to find it to laugh throughout your day and the better impressions that you’re going to make on everyone that you meet. Now of course, that positivity is huge but it’s not the only piece you need. If you want to consistently make a great first impression, there are four emotions that you need to hit in order and most people get the order completely backwards which is why they don’t always make a great first impression. If you want to know what those emotions are and more importantly, what order you need to hit them in go ahead and click the screen now. It’s going to take you to a different page where you can enter your email and access that video right now, so. Also, if you have not done so yet, make sure to subscribe to the channel. 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