I’m about to tell you how to win an argument,
but before I break into psychology and debate tactics, why not try my personal winning strategy
that actually got me this job. [crying] Hey master debaters, I’m Jules for Dnews,
and… you’re wrong. I’m sorry about that, but you’re simply
incorrect. I challenge you to prove me otherwise. Argue your point, change my opinion. Chances are, you can’t. Not because I’m alone in a studio and screen
all my phone calls, but because, according to neuroscience, it’s really difficult to
win an argument. That is, if you define winning an argument
as “effective persuasion”. It turns out arguing and persuading are incompatible
goals for most people. Psychology professor Drew Weston headed up
a study in 2004 where researchers took supporters of George W. Bush and John Kerry and showed
them videos of their preferred candidate contradicting himself. 1 Simultaneously, the participant’s brains
were scanned in an MRI machine. When subjects were shown videos challenging
their beliefs, the part of the brain associated with logic and reason, the dorsolateral prefrontal
cortex, didn’t light up very much. However, the orbital frontal cortex, the anterior
cingulate and the posterior cingulate all lit up, and those areas are mainly associated
with emotion, conflict resolution, and moral judgement. Instead of processing whether or not their
beliefs were right, the subjects instead processed how the information made them feel, and how
to resolve that incongruence. As soon as they figured out how to justify
the incorrect information without challenging their own beliefs, so maybe something like
saying that the candidate accidentally misspoke, their brains released a bunch of dopamine
as a reward and made them feel great! Even when presented with evidence challenging
their beliefs, the subjects resolved their internal confusion without being persuaded
to change their minds.5 And we know this rings true even outside of the laboratory. According to research by another psychology
professor, John Gottman, roughly 69% of the things married couples argue about are never
resolved and are perpetual. Most of the time, arguing doesn’t solve
anything. But hey, you came here to learn how to kick
ass next time you argue, not learn about why arguing is messy and stupid. So how do you actually win an argument? Well, by not arguing1. Yeah, I know, it sounds like I’m promoting
the abstinence theory of debate, but hear me out. Arguing is a war; it has a winner and a loser,
and nobody wants to be a loser. Being wrong is okay as long as nobody knows
it, but if you have to admit that you’re wrong, AND change your behavior, you’re
probably going to look for any possible reason not to. The real trick is to make an argument look
as little like a war as possible. And you know who’s really good at that? FBI hostage negotiators. The FBI uses a method of persuasion known
as the Behavioral Change Stairway Model, and it actually only consists of five steps. Step One: Actively listen. Show your opponent that you are taking in
what they’re putting out. Step Two: Empathize. Let them know that not only do you understand
where they’re coming from, but you understand how they feel about their position. Don’t dismiss feelings or negate their experiences,
even if you disagree. Which you probably do. Keep all those adversarial feelings bottled
up for now. Step Three: Build a rapport. Once you’ve shown them that you understand
how they feel, now you want them to understand how you feel. Because if you both lay all the cards on the
table, then you can trust each other, or at the very least, they’ll trust you. Step Four: Influence. This is the first place where you’re going
to actually make your point after building a strong foundation of empathy and trust. If you’re both listening, then you can start
problem solving with them, not against them. And finally, Step Five, which is less of a
step and more of a conclusion: they change9. For the FBI this means they surrender, but
for you, it might mean you get to stay out past curfew, or get the wallpaper you like,
or eat 200 hot dogs in an hour, whatever floats your boat. Pretty much all of those self-help books about
arguing follow these same basic steps, because in the end, the thing we most want to do when
someone tells us we’re wrong, is almost always the exactly wrong thing to do. We can’t do episodes like this without our
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watch this video before their debate, but do debates even matter in the first place? Watch me talk about whether or not they can
actually affect the election in this video. But it is impossible for some people to see eye to
eye? Are conservative and liberal brains actually
different? Find out in this video
by Tara. So what are some other tips and tricks you
can use to win an argument? Let us know down below in the comments and
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100 Comments
D. L.
It's exactly this type of professional manipulation, totally devoid of honesty, in politics, media and everywhere that has led us to where we are now.
Airoh264
i can punch you in the face and win it like that
Addicted To The '80's
I don't want to be calm and listen. I want to yell and be violent.
Emma04079 ‹
How do win against your mom:
1: Say im gonna run away
2: Pack your stuff
3: Wait till night and hide
4: Your mom will think your gone
5: UNTIL YOU STAB HER TO DEATH!
Andy Dorannuu
Gun
Fight For Freedom
No need to bring facts into the discussion. Just tell everybody how that person hurt your feelings. Argument over.
Conguy Monty
this process might be the reason I became friends with my ex
Death RaiseX
Masterbator! a new word for Master Debater. What! Why you slap me mom!
James Richard Jeremy Clarkson-Hammond-May
STOP CHANGING YOUR NAME
J Stone
Another great thing to know
never argue with an idiot.
solomon harris
ha. master debaters…ha sounds like masturbaters haha
TELEVISIBLE
has the last words !
Mr Chicken
A "rapport"
Mr Chicken
Me and my friends got in a fight. One of them is a jerk and at the end of it they moved on from me thinking I'm the bad one so I lost 2 good friends 🙁
Nathan McKaskle
That's because so few people have the level of humility required to admit they're wrong. They're taught from day one that being right is the important part, but not how to be right by accepting when you're wrong and changing your mind. They're punished for being wrong (in the Prussian model government school system the U.S. and most western countries utilize), humiliated for it, and then expected to have some kind of humility about it when they are grown up? Yeah right.
Sajat Shrestha
hey master debaters😂😂😂😂
Ryan West
dafuq master debaters
(masturbatures)
lmfao
Jess Stuart
Step 6. Once the subject is sufficiently calmed down, send in the SWAT team.
jemoedergamin g
I always punch somewone if they don't agreed with mee
Inevitable Truth
First person to leave a hopeless argument is a winner
Neon Valley
0:16 Masterbaters?
Oh master debators.. WHATEVER
CatineSkyi
was he really crying in the short clip?
Varno Clarke
Absolutely pointless video. The whole things based on the theory that everyone should be a sissy.
Banana 9
Master (de)bators 😏
Mutha Flela
video starts 2:06
Konei Ortiz
Me: watches video
Me: hey mom can I have a-
Mom: NO your not getting a laptop
Me:but-
Mom: NO
Pickle Man
It's hard to win an argument against a smart or normal person, but it's near impossible to win one against a retarded person…
arita h
0:40 ITS THE PEOPLE FROM THAT MEME IM WHEEZING
Introgauge .C
liberals don't react to negative stimuli?????????? as much as conservatives do????? wasn't it you lefties who came up with "trigger" warnings?
Donkey
1:39 If you are these people please shut up when you speak.
EZ2B_HARDCORE
YOU PEOPLE ARE ALL WRONG !
your comments are dumb and your life sucks !
dont even comment because i already won …
Jess Eeps
This is coming from jules, stay stupid
SAN KING
This is one way ignore them BOOM
Kyrlics
did he say masturbators in the beginning?
Shaco #NHR
/watch?v=Y7KEhJc8Nxc This is easier
Socialist
When I'm wrong I just modify my arguments around the new information and stop abandon whatever I was wrong about.
In this way my arguments become stronger and more persuasive. Granted, it's impossible to persuade some people, but then you don't argue with them to persuade them, you argue to either strengthen your own arguments or persuade spectators, or possibly out of some sadistic or masochistic impulse.
Prince Karimi
1:57 married couple ??
Ash Is Socially Awkward
Annoying bitch: What you gonna do bout it
Me: Give you a stern look an say, yeah really
Annoying bitch: Oh really
Me: Yeah really
Antwain Clarke
I'm discovering more and more that emotions are more accessible than logic, in fact logic works within the boundaries that our emotions define. By removing the stigma of the dissenting opinion, making the other/outsider seem less unpleasant, logic becames unencumbered to reach new conclusions. With that said, emotions are still such a messy, chaotic variable though that just complicates everything unnecessarily. I wish they never existed.
The one
I didn't get the last one. Change.
A Carné
Thank You!
Oli
How to win an argument with progressives.
1) Clarify what they believe
2) Point out the dissonance
3) Walk away. You've done all you can. Further argument will raise the progressives emotions and open the floodgates of abuse. The approx 1 – 3% of progressives who have capacity for critical thinking may one day look past their mental conditioning and realise their delusion. Until that time, it's best to steer clear of the outrage.
No Body
have you ma&$*&$
Roma X
im not sure if i am a master debater, but i am definitely a masterbater , at lease twice a day
cheeseman
0:40 those are the people from that meme.
Rocky Ugsod
People in a religious cults have been doing this a lot.
martijn van weele
"You're wrong. You are incorrect. Prove me wrong"
Nice try, but that's not how this works…
You see, before, I was making a claim and I was trying to prove that claim. You could have just said "I don't believe you" and you'd have been fine, but no, what you said, what you stated was "you're wrong, incorrect". You've gone and made a falsifiable statement. Now the burden of proof is on you, pal. It's not up to me to prove you wrong, it's up to you to prove you right.
So go ahead, prove to me that you're right and I'm wrong. I'll be waiting…
Raman
When I did this-
1) listen to them
2) empathize
(When I said okay to that guy u we're right)
He just got the chance to beat me up.
And at this moment I knew by watching the video I fucked up!
WhichUppercut
I disliked this video. Too many ads inside the video. Overkill!!!!!!
solisium
My mother always thought me that he that gets angry first loses. I tell you that she’s absolutely right!
lol moq
Lol that "hey master debaters"
HeyZReD
Winning an argument with a smart person is hard, but winning an argument with a stupid person is literraly impossible.
Serenity Scratch
You can also take the liberal approach
-state your ground
-if they disagree get triggered
-call them homophobic
-call them racist
-play victim
-walk away
You won! (According to you)
Raphial Lee
Debate mean argu and you cant walk away from them. Not how wrong or right you are the person with the biggest mouth or most skilled in persuation will all ways win.
Bartosz Kuklinski
So basically walking on the eggshells. We have gone far away from the classics. Rather then focusing on the facts and heart of the matter one has to focus on protocol of niceties and mutual self – indulgency. But this is partly an effect of modern society become overly sensitive and gynocentric. That;s why why have today such absurd discussion as this on the problem of "hate speech".
Bigzell
I only know how to win an Internet argument because I do this phycologey trick on the people in a server to get them to turn on my opponent, THERE FORE making the opponents ego being lower causing them to leave or stop talking with a "…" which is the WHITE FLAG if they stop talking. But this video helped me too
Squirrel For his acorn
Depending on how much you really care about the subject just ignore them and continue what your doing, however if otherwise only use things that they can relate to in hope that they have the same feeling as you currently do. Hope this helps
irelia 577ksj
there are tactics which can help you practically win arguments. this video isnt helpful AT ALL.
K Arpitha
Video starts at 0:16
RENZ
Although I don't come from black parents, I identify as a black man and pull the race card on people when they least expect it. Try to argue that one.
The Green Man
The moment you are arguementing, and the one you are arguementing whit spells something wrong.
John Steinat
I have tried this, it doesn't work. If you don't agree with your opponent. They will deny you ever listened, even if it's very obvious you were. They will say, "if you listened, you wouldn't say that
DiamondDuckDude
"No u"
The After Dance Party
I've gotten the best response from being actively silent to people and people ended up admitting they were wrong and apologizing to me.
Fossilftw
insert opinion that you disagree with
Artistry And A Side Of Salt
How to win an argument
With logic
100 subs without any videos challenge :3
Have a superlong neck got it
MikeDNC
I avoid using the word 'you' and separate the person from the ideas which are actually the topic we care about,
to tremendous success so far.
56%
Wrong. Here's how to win an argument in current year: "Racist" (or any other buzzword you like).
You immediately win.
Leslie Jackson
Keep arguing and pushing until eventually give in and let you win the argument 😁😁
TankMcHavoc Productions
I actually prove my mom wrong all the time, then she grounds me for being right.
Purist
0:16 hey M A S T U R B A T E R S
UltimateChoji An
69% yum
Dave Marx
Don't?
Owen Campbell
You need a portion of convincing truth, and that is a portion of experienced knowledge.
You destroy any lie with experienced knowledge.
Gaming 513
"You're wrong, prove me otherwise. You are simply incorrect"
INCORRECT ABOUT WHAT YOU IDIOT YOU ARE YET TO SPECIFY THE TOPIC. BY MY CONCLUSION YOU ARE WRONG BECAUSE YOU SAID IM WRONG WITH REGARD TO NO TOPIC
Carlos Salinas
Yessssss!
Purrecious Tabby
He’s definitely ENTP; change my mind
koopa _ macat
Sounded like you said masterbaters…
billy jean
You didn't give any argument or evidence to prove that I'm wrong. So I don't need any argument or evidence to prove that you are wrong
Tom L
Master debaters. I see what you did there. Cleverly dirty.
In Lucem
How to win an argument…don't argue.
EpicWarframeNinjaPvP
unliked wen i seen da bro wit a guy
Neo Virz
no u
James Harrison
lets start an argument "you are wrong, prove me wrong"
Barslund _
what if the guy you wanna win an argument against doesn't get arguments
mugen jin
This does not work with women..
SirWilliamSquireVonDutchMire
People who care more about bettering themself will actually enjoy when people let them know that they are wrong so long as what the person is saying is true and criticism can be welcomed if the person cares more about making progress and showing gratitude to the person for letting them know something that they didn't realize before. Those people can easily admit when they did something wrong or if the way they are going about doing something is far from optimal.
Oliver sobhi Zakhary
I have just 1 tip
Be right all the time.
Martyn Greener
Rapport!? Is that the Rupert Bear version of a report? 😬
Rupert Murdock - Griffen
You can experience this for yourself by thinking about one acronym. U.., F.., O.
Feel how your brain automatically "switches" into panic mode.., and forces either a joke response or anger.
It would be very interesting to study this under and MRI.
I can sufficiently explain everything, and dismiss common myths. But this only makes people angry.
supersonic118 boi
masterbater 69 wtf
Lance Clarke
0:40 Isn't that the guy and the girl from a meme?
Katie Morrissey
Lol “hello master debaters” sounds like masterbaters
Jojo Siwa
Why does the man on the left of the thumbnail look like his neck was stretched
Almighty Loaf
I swear to god at the beginning of the video I thought he said masturbaters
Reza bogel4
Thumbnail:how to get a long neck
escotg GAMING
“Ur mom gey”
Freddy Gordon
got into a big argument with my dad who refuses to ever admit hes wrong. about to confront him after watching this video. Wish me luck!
Vishnu Govind
Me: How to win an Argument?
Seeker: Stop arguing